Inner confidence in every child

Becoming a parent is one of the most joyful and rewarding experience in life. Giving birth to a baby comes with several responsibilities as well as challenges concerned with their upbringing.  How do I teach the little one to take the right decisions? How do I teach them to do things in the right manner? How do I mold them as good human beings? These are common questions that arise in every parent’s mind. Finding the correct way of raising a child can help them to face and prevent any future unforeseen situation with confidence, courage, and determination.

I read an article in Tathasthu magazine “Inner confidence for every child” written by Maureen Heealy.  She beautifully explained in her article how to strengthen kids from inside.

As parents we will dream a lot about our kid’s future. We will enroll them in various classes. We want our kids to be successful in their life.  But, is material success sufficient to bring happiness in their life? Are they really strong enough to face obstacles in their path? These are important questions to think about.

 When kids are grown with the understanding that they are divine, spiritual and powerful, then they will be able to overcome any obstacle in life and will be able to create a happier life.  After I came into the path of spirituality (knowing about myself), my confidence and strength improved a lot and my life was happier than ever.  As an adult if I can learn at this age and change my life, think about the future of a child who has grown with such a concept. If we knew the concept from the beginning or if we were raised in that way we would have passed that tradition to our kids happily.

It is natural for kids to look at their parents, teachers and outside world for appreciation and pleasing nods for their achievements. It is good to get inspiration through appreciation but they should not completely depend on it because outside world always changes. So as parents we should teach them to get inspiration from inside, not outside. How to develop this ability in them? Maureen gives three key ideas to cultivate inner strength.

1. Inner confidence everyday:  Inner confidence does not develop overnight.  It is possible with consistent daily routine just like how we give them multivitamin every day. We should plant the seeds of confidence in child hood. Saying Morning Prayer every day is one of the greatest way to start with. Prayer is saying thanks to God for what he has given to us. With this habit they will know how to appreciate things around them and be contented with what they have. Other tools which help kids to develop inner confidence are playing music, bed time stories, teaching them simple meditation techniques, chanting God’s name, saying simple affirmations, making them do creative projects etc.

Fourteenth Dalai Lama wrote a Morning Prayer which is simple and beautiful.  It goes like this:

Every day, think as you wake up.
Today I am fortunate to have woken up, I am alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to others, to achieve enlightenment for the benefit of all beings. I am going to have kind thoughts towards others. I am not going to get angry or think badly about others, I am going to benefit others as much as I can.

2. Giving them real life opportunities: Giving hands on experience to children will help them to be stronger from inside. Encourage kids to help you or their siblings in daily chores. When they are old enough, take them to various volunteer activities.  When you encourage kids to help others they’ll realize that they’re capable of promoting change – for the better.  You can see confidence in their eyes.

 3. Praise power within: Celebrating children’s outer success is most common thing everybody does. There is nothing wrong in doing that. Do the celebrations, reward them for their success. At the same time remind them the effort they put to win or succeed. Make them understand that the effort is more important than the result. Even if they fail, instead of regretting, ask them to take it as a lesson. This approach develops ability to face the failures with confidence. It helps them to be happy always.  This is the principle Lord Krishna told us in Bhagavad Gita – “Don’t focus on the result. Focus on the actions.”

Last but not the least, kids always imitate their parents.  Be a good role model for them. If you want them to be strong inside you should be doing it. Guiding our children to see within them first and accept what they are is a sacred act. By raising them in such a way, we are not only helping our kids but also helping our society. Kids with healthier thoughts and divine strength will be able to create healthier society.  It is difficult to nurture this deeper type of strength and confidence, but it is one of the greatest gifts which we can give our children.

 – Anu

5 Responses to “Inner confidence in every child”

  1. Sanjai Says:

    Hello Anu,
    It so true that the foundation has to be strong and built in the right way. Often parents don’t know the right way though they might think whatever they do they are doing good for their children. Powerful is their observation, especially with the parents :). Many times I have realized how my surronding and parents have influenced my current thinking/behavior/actions.
    Wonderful article. Nicely summarized. I am sure that you meant moral story reading rather than any story reading :). Thankful mode does miracles indeed. As you have noted that whatever the truth somebody has to say we can find the same information in Bhagavad Gita. When the truth universal, this is no surprise indeed. Thank you.

  2. Sriram Says:

    Dear Anu,
    Thank you for the article. Morning Prayer, Affirmations, stories, focusing on action are applicable not only for the upbringing of kids but adults as well. You have nicely summarized the article.

    Thanking you,

  3. Devraj Says:

    Dear Anu akka

    The article is well summarized. As you said it’s always a blessing to have parents who have at least some knowledge of divine. Teaching the kids about appreciation and taking them to volunteer activities is really a great thing. It will teach them to respect their life and others life too. I loved this article.


  4. Venu Says:

    Dear Anu,

    This article is very nice. You have covered the core values, confidence, inner strength, which are key to any kid. This article strike the balance between teaching them how to grow this strength as well as making them practice. The Dalai Lama’s prayer is very meaningful and makes lot of sense. Thank you so much for the wonderful article.

    Thank you,

  5. Raghu Says:

    Dear Anu,
    The article was summarized beautifully,I like the prayer very much,I even did not know it before,This prayer helps to anyone who are ready to do good things to others,Inner
    confidence,volunteer activity,power of divine for the kids is explained very beautifully,and also,When Parents don’t know the knowledge of life,they can’t guide their kids to right path.It is true.Thank you for the article.

    Thank you,

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